Monday, February 27, 2017

People, Anxiety, and How to Deal with It

1.       People 
      
      I am 90% sure that you know that being super fine to people is my biggest problem and my #1 common thing that I’ve shared here in this blog. Trust me, I’m really bad on this. So that’s why I made up my mind and tried to be a friendlier person so that I can be acceptable in this society, especially in this campus.
And yes, that went very well. People started to smile a lot at me, waved at me when we met, talked with me in break time, and other normal things to socialize in general. Even so, I still made some “space” to some people. Like, people that I’m not comfortable with. But I still talked to them. You know, intermezzo.


 
The thing that made me really pissed off was, those “people-that-I-don’t-hang-around-so-much” were starting to get closer slowly. I was fine at first, but then they started to be annoying, like, “Dea, can you make an opening script for my team (even though you [me] are not in my [their] team)?”. Or, “Dea, would you like to do two of my assignments? I will pay you for $10 later. Please?”. I even have experienced a creepy thing. One night, around 11pm, my door was knocked by my friend at my campus. He was just like, “Dea, Dea, Dea…” He kept calling my name, but I didn’t answer. I was too terrified to answer, I nearly cried at that moment. It was really unexpected and terrifying! TT---TT
Like, what the actual fukc? My kindness will be paid with me doing their assignments for $10?! No, no way. I will gladly help you a bit but not making those assignments tho. It’s like, they look down at me. They disrespect me. How could lazy and annoying and loud people like them haven’t become extinct yet? Like, why you go to college if you don’t do your responsibility?
I was (am) so done with those kind of human. Like, really. 
   
2.       Myself
To be honest, I often talk to myself. I often share my problems with myself. I almost never tell my problems except to people I am really close with. I believe, that I will be able to overcome all things that happened to me—good nor bad.  It’s my life, after all.
Unfortunately, I was (am) seldom to share beautiful things that have happened in my life. I don’t know but I feel like I preferred to complain about the things that made me pissed. I judged everyone (silently) if the group projects didn’t go as planned, and it dragged me to hatred. I became mad (silently) when my plans didn’t work as what I wanted because of the conditions. And most of it, I often blamed myself when everything went wrong, just like when I got unsatisfying score, when I fell from motorcycle, when I failed… I always felt that it’s all my fault (I still think so).
It made my mind becoming way more skeptical, dirtier, and… negative. I often see everything from the negative side instead from the positive’s. It made me hurting myself slowly from the inside. Made myself to feel that I’m not worth this life. Made me want to kill myself because my soul never get positive energy.
I made myself weak. And when I said I nearly killed myself, trust me, it happened.
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How to Deal with It
They said, every problem has its own cure. And for me, these things can lead me (or even you!) to get out from those “most-common-problems”. So, take a look!
1.       Get Out
From now, whenever I feel like I want to kill someone or having a terrible headache because of study or people, I will grab my motorcycle key and go outside alone. I often go to my favorite bookstore, or spend 3 hours at my favorite café—reading my unfinished Hercule Poirot’s series. I also sometimes go to cinema to watch newest movies alone. Being alone is sometimes (often for me! Lol) the best medicine when you are in the bad mood. It is way better than you look for random people to listen to your shitty problems. Trust me, they don’t care!
If you don’t like hanging around with yourself, you can spend a good time with your best friends, or those who have your trust. Like, having a chit-chat together, or even go to a karaoke bar! It’s fun, and karaoke-ing is really a stress-reliever! XD
Well, that’s my first advice. You need to get a fresh air outside your gloomy dorm.

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